Documenting your self-love journey is extremely empowering. It takes a lot of courage to go leaps and bounds beyond what you thought possible for yourself. With that being said, you might start out with a linear destination—trying to get from Point A to Point B. You want to see the end goal on the horizon, the silver lining that tells you that you “did it.” However, life consists of free will—we make mistakes, we fall, we get hurt, we hurt, and we go through loss.
What we fail to accept is that not every point in life involves finding closure. It’s not realistic or healthy for us to do so at times, because that involves us getting stuck in the past that way. We won’t always know why a person might harm someone else, or why they decided to “ghost” you. It’s a hell of a lot easier trying to determine a formulaic answer for how we are going to create change in an oppressive system than it is to understand the limitless capabilities of human nature.
The butterfly did not try to rush the process when it was still in its cocoon. In fact, it didn’t even stop to ruminate on why it took so long to evolve. It just accepted this fact, and flew. The birds don’t question the winter and say hey, why can’t you stay warm all year long so my buddies and I can stay up north? They simply travel south during winter because they also know that they cannot fight the ecosystems in which we live.
So, the end goal should rather be to stay vigilant and satisfied with your progression instead. Anytime you journal about the transition between the struggles you might be facing in life and your self-care journey, try to stay away from I just wish I could find closure. Stop wishing on stars and focus on the things you can control, including how to keep bettering your situation. Once you focus your revolution on progress, you just may find yourself among the stars without ever having called on them.
